Just One of the Many Random Thoughts I Have Now…
Monday, May 30, 2011DISCLAIMER: Much has happened in the past months and whatever that would be read from this point on are products of the imagination… Or… 
I was talking to a few close friends just last week when we came across love and relationships, which I personally think is the most notorious and infamous topics in drinking sessions.
Just a random thought at that time…
Scenario: A committed (in a relationship for years and all the complications that go with it) guy who has been in a happy, almost perfect, relationship meets this feisty and everything-about-her-is-not-describing-her-current-girlfriend girl. They spend time together and realize a lot of things (including the epic this-is-what-I’ve-been-missing-in-my-life drama). They get together and realize more things (including the much more epic what’s-next and it-has-to-stop-but-we-can’t).
What happens?
In the classic idealistic realm, the prince charming sweeps the maiden off her feet and brings her to her castle and makes her the kingdom’s princess. Nah… Simply said, when people fall in love, they’d go out of their comfort zones and crazily cry over the fact that they’ve found what they’ve been looking for. They leave everything behind them, including existing relationships, and elope to wherever. They’d live in the farthest place and build their own family. They’d be happy about the idea that they have found true love in this lifetime.
Heck.
That sounded a bit too much.
You know what sucks in this story? There’s another take on what would happen.
And sadly, this is really what happens most of the time.
This is the realistic claim. The guy who has always thought he was happy with his girlfriend would realize he could be happier with the other girl BUT there are just too many complications to it. He can’t hurt the one who loves him. He couldn’t just let go of their years together. Simply put, he couldn’t leave the girl he has built his dreams with. This is the girl he knew all along as the only one he’d spend his life with. The most practical thing to do is to live those dreams and be contented with the love that they have for each other. He’ll realize that the other girl was a fleeting memory, a test to their relationship, and unfortunately, just another girl who had to pass in this lifetime.
And what happens to the other girl?
We better not know. She might shrug it off. She might still be thinking of the what-ifs. She might have found someone new right now. She might… Or, she might be sobbing as she writes this post.
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hi! i must say.. this has been one of the best comments i’ve got in my years of blogging 
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i emailed you to personally thank you
anyway, this hit hard because am going through exactly the same situation. 
oh well… long story…
thanks again! til next post
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There may be another take on this sordid misadventure. One you may or may not have considered but here’s from a balanced male perspective.
The guy leaves his long standing girlfriend to pursue a potential partner that appears to challenge him mentally and physically perhaps only because his mind is warranting a change maybe even screaming to break free of the cycle that life has turned into with his ex but guess what?
As soon as he pursues the new flame his first order of business would be cut ties with his ex, why? Because his mind is telling him to do so because all that he once loved or cherished about her seems pale in comparison with his new flame.
What he will have undoubtedly forgotten was that it takes more than just physical or mental attraction to keep a relationship going. Its the small sacrifices we make when we love someone, the flaws that we overlook that keep the relationship going. Once you’ve forgotten that you suddenly find it very hard to adjust and make it work. More often than not it will be just a fling resulting in the guy reappearing with his tail between his legs clutching at straws because after all it was just a trick the mind played on the heart.
Now whether his ex does or even should consider forgiving him is perhaps the topic of another discussion:)
Posted by UQ at June 7, 2011, 4:53 am